The Post Relationship Breakdown

I've been noticing this for a couple years now, but since I just recently started this small writing venture, I've been unable to really comment on the hilarity that is people who re-emerge into the world around them when they make an exit from their recently collapsed relationship. The almost unbelievable intensity with which many people throw themselves into a relationship is indicative of several things, but I'm not here to discuss those here, but rather, the affect it has on their social standing while they are in a relationship and afterward.

I've seen a multitude of people run head first into relationships, glorify their newly acquired significant beyond reasonable expectation, and from that point of "linkage" between them self and their romantic partner, their friendships begin to fall to priority numero deux; so much so, that in some cases, their newly acquired significant other has this powerful ability to sway their suitor into agreeing with them on nearly everything, and by doing so, reducing the trust between year-long, decade-long friendships to an easily cut string. Of course, I consider this an unhealthy relationship, but again, I am not here to discuss that point. My point is when said relationship fails (if it fails), the result is an immediate attempt to reintegrate oneself into a social sphere that was almost immediately abandoned when said relationship began.

This is the point when the awkward re-merging begins. From a massive influx of praise and love for the ex-significant other, the very noticeable turn to self reflective, consoling, empowering quotes, the immediate cropping of pictures with which the boyfriend or girlfriend used to partake in, the sudden increase in outsourcing praise to estranged friends (or God/Jesus) in an attempt to seem included from day one, and in some cases, the "I don't need someone else to make me happy" posts come shrieking in from all sides as social media becomes an outlet for raw emotions having completely, utterly overcome any levee holding back the flood of emotion that is a person now detached from their life source - someone else. These are the exact symptoms, I believe, in an unhealthy relationship with someone other, a forever weak bond between friends, and above all, a massive lack of relationship with oneself.

All of what I've written is simply speculation based on observation of teenagers to 20 something year olds, so I could be completely off base, but I have observed it quite often within that small sample, and again, I'm not going to try and be politically correct about everything here.

Listening to: Led Zeppelin, "Stairway to Heaven"