The "Attached" Relationship

Relationships – probably the subject of greatest emotion and friction during one's life. However, particularly speaking, the romantic relationship seems to strike everyone with a level of rash moodiness that is seldom encountered between friends, family, or one's relationship with their pet (hardly debatable that the latter would be a lower rung relationship due to its lack of complexity, but nonetheless, a relationship). The romantic relationship is wrought in emotional attachment within the vast majority of western couples, and seems to consume any other/alternative prospective perspective in its insatiable hunger to make the connection between two people a one dimensional affair. This affair is an assault to the variable, intellectual relationship I tend to think is more advantageous,healthy, and has a higher rate of longevity.

The attached relationship I see a lot of people engage in is, essentially, a “buy in” into a person. That “buy in” is giving another person the responsibility to rise up and be, not only part of the relationship, but a responsible party of that person. This is such a massive undertaking that when the “honey moon” phase of most romances comes to a close, the “high” of the honey moon (that helps each person take immense responsibility over their new suitor) dissipates and the reality takes its stead; as a result, the pressure mounts, expectations begin not to be met, and friction is born. This is not a relationship that is destined to “go the distance”, because the relationship is already so taxing that it becomes a greater burden than expected. Not only that, but the relationship is typically foundation-less due as its sustenance on sexuality (an important trait, given) and emotion (also important, but more for appreciation, not in the context of burden) with absolutely no focus on intellectual and creative attributes that make a person unique in their own right. I believe that an appreciation of a person for who they truly are coupled with physical attractiveness leads to a strong emotional, simultaneously supportive bond between two individuals (Individuality within a relationship is another discussion topic that I've touched on in Facebook, but I will expound on here in the future).

I realize I'm speaking in generalities, and in most cases, this leads to false judgments, but I don't aim to be completely politically correct throughout the entirety of my blog.

Listening to: Paramore